My Antifragile Family
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My Antifragile Family

My family has always been extremely close. The talk-every-day, text-when-your-flight lands, always-in each-other’s-business kind of close. We are by no means perfect — we are messy, loud and chaotic, with plenty of arguments and over-processing (¾’s of us are therapists), but we love each other deeply, laugh a lot, and have always felt connected. I remember, growing up, people would always tell me how lucky I was to have a family like mine. They could detect this special something — it was palpable.

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What is Love?
Marlis Jansen with Lily Boyar Marlis Jansen with Lily Boyar

What is Love?

At Graddha, we work with individuals, couples and families to develop the fundamental building blocks for successful, thriving multi-generational relationships. We sit down with our clients, and find out what they desire most in their lives. They almost always mention love as being most important. But what does this mean? What exactly is love?

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Your Money & Your Honey: Tips for Getting Along
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Your Money & Your Honey: Tips for Getting Along

Imagine watching a movie and seeing a depiction of a Hollywood couple, dining by candlelight, and “going over the books.” This certainly isn’t your typical rom-com scenario. Discussing spending, debt, or saving isn’t what most of us picture for romantic date night conversation. However, while talking about money might not seem sexy, it is necessary for building healthy, lasting relationships.

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Time Affluence, Enoughness and Self Care: Becoming Our Best Selves
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Time Affluence, Enoughness and Self Care: Becoming Our Best Selves

Regardless of financial wealth, we all have the ability to reshape the way we spend our time. Even small changes can significantly improve our well-being. Our self-concept and behaviors are largely driven by narratives about success, responsibility, and “enoughness”. It takes intentionality and courage to look critically at these narratives and write a different story — a story that is based on the belief that we are enough.

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